Updated: Mar 30
Have you ever been tired?
And I don't mean the type of tired from working a long shift or from pulling an all-nighter studying.
I mean the type of tired that goes beyond just lack of sleep. When all the coffee and energy drinks in the world can't chase the weighty exhaustion away, when focusing on projects you need to accomplish feel as miserable as pulling your own teeth out, or when you sleep for nine hours and still feel just as tired as the day before.
The type of tired when life itself feels heavy.
I think a lot of people have felt that type of tired before, if they aren't feeling it now. After everything that's happened in recent years, it's not surprising. So much sh*t has been going on lately-- globally, locally, and, for a lot of people, personally too. It can be exhausting when it feels like the waves and waves of bad news crashing into you are nonstop and always growing larger with each hit.
I think for most people who get to this level of tired, it's always the same progression:
The conflict they're facing (whether internally or externally) is loud, jarring, and never ending. To cope, you learn how to block it out, to remain detached and apathetic, because the alternative feels like too much, especially when it feels like there's no end in sight. But, this state of autopilot is no way to live. And at our core as humans, we know that. So we begin to feel tired and weary and heavy, but we can't quite pinpoint why.
It can be draining to live like this.
Which is why you shouldn't have to.
Life doesn't need to be heavy.
Now I know everyone has different lives and different circumstances. People feel and react differently because of either their own situations or just their own wiring. There is no one size fits all to how you should handle hardships and trauma, which is why I'm not going to sit here and pretend to have the ten step plan to achieving instant happiness.
(I hate to break it to you, but that simply does not exist)
If you're experiencing a problem, ask for help. It can be help from a family member, licensed therapist, mentor, or someone who's experiencing your same problems-- but just ask for help. The worst lie we've told ourselves as people is that we have to suffer silently and alone.
Asking for help is not weakness.
Taking a break to take care of yourself is not being selfish.
Loving your body, your headspace, and your spirituality is the only way you're going to be able to function enough to help and love others.
So do yourself a favor, and take that vacation. Shut off the notifications, unsubscribe to that newsletter, block that energy drainer: whatever you need to do to make life less heavy, do it.
You are worth being your top priority.